The Cry Of Tamar Of A Healthy Non Abusive Relationship

Pamela Cooper-White discuss very real situations while referencing the Tamar’s story. While, in my opinion, violence against women has decreased over the years, many women are still victims of violence. Cooper-White gives a quiz in her book The Cry of Tamar of a healthy non-abusive relationship. This was a little bit of an eye opener for me with the specific questions that are asked. While I know what a healthy relationship consist of, it made me realize that even more women than I originally thought are probably victims of an abusive relationship. There are some women that I work with now or over the past few years that everyone in the office thinks their spouse is a â€Å"jerk† or that they deserve better but never really thought of them as a victim. A lady that I worked with recently would have to call her husband and talk to him during her lunch hour because he believed that she was cheating on him. He would also control what she wore and would not like when she would have make-up on. Her spouse would think she wore make-up to attract other men. I knew the way he would treat her was not right but never once thought she was involved in an abusive relationship. Abusive relationships to me are relationships in which one is forced to participate in unwanted sexual advances or activities and physical abuse such as hitting, chocking etc. As I continued to read and understand more about violence against women, the myths of battered women shed more light. In a way I feel